This is seen in almost every cycle of life on earth. Men rotting in the same job for God knows how long; Husbands settling in for a mediocre level of relationship with their wives; wives putting up with all kinds of nonsense that husbands do. They all know it is pain all the way. Yet they put up with it. This is all a classic example of people fearing change - Hold on a minute. I am NOT advocating walking away from the situation. I am talking about addressing the situation from a much higher level of understanding. And bring in the desired result by inducing the change right now.

Change is easy, but Progress is not. Change is a choice which you must make with wisdom and courage and not just emotional explosions. Emotions will drive you towards some kind of change which may not be the desired change; the direction of change must be chosen by you - and it takes a lot of wisdom and level headedness to make the change.

Frightfully, life is so designed that even when we get a chance to change, we do NOT - simply because of the complex, unfailing and die hard workings of the huge underlying systems of human life that make you resist from changing to a better situation.

Tackling this is easy - DO THE THING YOU LOVE BUT FEAR TO DO!! - all the time keeping in mind the question  if i do this, does it make me a better person?

It is easy to do it, but hard to practice it. Happiness, Success, blah blah… is just the result of practicing things that you love to but fear to.

Take some time to ponder the situations you are in and the situations you aspire to be in, in this beautiful life …. understand what you need to change to get there - and work towards implementing the change - one step at a time.

Cheers!

I can tell you this - Grace and Guidance from God is a MUST if you want to live a meaningful life. Lets assume you are on a road driving a car that has no headlamps. Now you are a great driver and the mechanics of the car are well within your levels of knowledge. Anybody’s guess is that it would serve you great during the day, but come the night and you could do with atleast a weak ray of light. No amount of your knowledge and powerful self beliefs would be able to help. For all I know you could, in a sharp instant undo all the good you meant for you, your car and your destination, if you took one small mis-step in the dark. God’s guidance is something like the light from your headlamps. Without that, you would do well only when the going is good. When the times are challenging - which most of the time is so for anyone on the path of growth, it is better sense to understand the divine, unassuming, never seen but always felt presence of God and let it guide you.

Think, and may be you would get a better answer than mine to believe in the grace of God even more! And when you do, may I also know it?

PS: While you are writing your new affirmation ensure that you use no negative words like ‘don’t', ‘not, ‘never’, ‘hate’ etc. For example: ‘I don’t smoke cigarettes again’ carries the same meaning as ‘I am a non-smoker’. But while composing an affirmation care is to be taken on the words chosen. Use something like ‘Every time I feel like smoking a cigarette, I crush the desire, as I understand the importance of living with health, and then, I choose to focus on something positive immediately.’ OR ‘Every time I feel like smoking a cigarette, I simply remember my breathing exercises I did in the morning, the clear feel of my lungs, and the deep breathing I am able to do as a result of healthy living.’ You see: the point is to refrain from using any kind of negative situational words or sequence.

As you draw closer to your goal, your confidence levels would be much different than it was when you started your journey towards the goal. The kind of affirmations you started out with then, helped you move ahead and get this far. Now if you want to move further then you need affirmations which suit the situation where you have reached - the words, the temperament you say it, the feel it draws - and a whole load of other things vary. Hence, it is mandatory you make the necessary changes else you will get stuck easily. And the best thing is - you might never realize the reason why you are stuck. It will lead to a classic statement then - Affirmations don’t work!!! Wrong! Affirmations do work and if you ask me - Affirmations are the only things that keep things going. Since it happens naturally at a deep level, many people do not even realize that they are affirming their wants and demands. This is clear when you do achieve something, you tend to think “I knew this would happen all along!” Well that is an affirmation too.

I have been experimenting on this classy subject for quite sometime and while I do acknowledge that 8 years is too short a time to judge anything, I do know this: Affirmations work. It has worked very well and is working now - even now for me and to the multitude of clientèle I have worked with creating personalized affirmations.