The Rule of Change & The Fear of Change
CHANGE for many, is a dreaded word. Life is so designed that we get comfortable with what ever we are exposed to for a long time. In our life, for many reasons we might have been exposed to situations we dread but have had to put up with till now. We might even have put up with it for the sheer fact of appeasing peer / society / or any other relative pressure. To the extent, that we get so comfortable to the once long ago dreaded situation.
This is seen in almost every cycle of life on earth. Men rotting in the same job for God knows how long; Husbands settling in for a mediocre level of relationship with their wives; wives putting up with all kinds of nonsense that husbands do. They all know it is pain all the way. Yet they put up with it. This is all a classic example of people fearing change - Hold on a minute. I am NOT advocating walking away from the situation. I am talking about addressing the situation from a much higher level of understanding. And bring in the desired result by inducing the change right now.
Change is easy, but Progress is not. Change is a choice which you must make with wisdom and courage and not just emotional explosions. Emotions will drive you towards some kind of change which may not be the desired change; the direction of change must be chosen by you - and it takes a lot of wisdom and level headedness to make the change.
Frightfully, life is so designed that even when we get a chance to change, we do NOT - simply because of the complex, unfailing and die hard workings of the huge underlying systems of human life that make you resist from changing to a better situation.
Tackling this is easy - DO THE THING YOU LOVE BUT FEAR TO DO!! - all the time keeping in mind the question if i do this, does it make me a better person?
It is easy to do it, but hard to practice it. Happiness, Success, blah blah… is just the result of practicing things that you love to but fear to.
Take some time to ponder the situations you are in and the situations you aspire to be in, in this beautiful life …. understand what you need to change to get there - and work towards implementing the change - one step at a time.
Cheers!
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